Questions you should be asking yourself
1. Should I be here?
2. Have I been asked to stop visiting?
3. Is my presence here making things more difficult/more painful for Noel?
4. If I've been asked to stop visiting, what are my motivations for continuing to visit?
5. Is Noel a human being who deserves to have her feelings and wishes respected?
6. Am I a raging asshole/an inconsiderate jerk for continuing to visit despite Noel's stated (and repeated) wishes that I not visit?
Answers
1. If you have to ask, the answer is probably no.
2. If the answer is yes, leave, and don't come back.
3. If you've been asked to stop visiting, the answer is yes. Leave, and don't come back.
4. You're a raging asshole/an inconsiderate jerk.
5. YES.
6. YES.
Look, I pay very close attention to my traffic feed (and I installed it for a reason). I'm well aware that people I've asked REPEATEDLY not to visit here are still visiting. I'm not amused, I'm not flattered, I don't feel cared for or looked after by your utter disregard for my feelings.
I feel violated. YOU ARE VIOLATING ME BY CONTINUING TO COME HERE. IT HURTS AND SCARES ME.
I've already lost one blog to this shit. I don't want to lose another one.
I'm asking you to stop. Please, stop. I don't want you here. You're not welcome. This is my space and I have a right to ask you to leave. I'm asking you to leave. Your presence here causes me pain. Every single time I see certain locations pop up in my feed, I feel attacked. I feel unsafe. I feel terror.
If you care about that, if you care about me, then leave. Now. Don't come back.
Thank you.
(If you would like to have a straightforward discussion with me about something *other* than this blog, if you have questions or need to talk to me, my email is in the About section and I'm open to that. I am not open to people coming here when I've asked them not to. It is disrespectful. It is a violation. It needs to stop)
